I want to share a technique with you I share with my clients – if they hit a crunch point during their bespoke migraine treatment programme. Learn this technique in this short video. Then, give it a go yourself and let me in the comments below how you get on.
ps – there’s a transcript below if you prefer to read.
Here’s the video transcript:
Hello, Jan Southern here. I’m taking a wee break from what I’ve been working on because I thought, actually I want to put something together.
A short video about something that I share with my clients, and I want to share with you, so you can try it too. But before I do that, I just want to set the scene for you.
Imagine that I’m out at some business networking event, and of course people will ask:
“What is it that you do?” because we always ask each other that question, don’t we?
“What is it that you do?”
I tell them I’ve created bespoke migraine treatment programme and it’s for people who’ve tried everything without finding what helps them as yet. And often as not, then they’ll ask me about the techniques that I use.
And often as not I’ll try and guide that conversation away from the techniques. Because, yes the techniques are important – they work! If they didn’t, I wouldn’t use them myself and I wouldn’t be teaching and sharing them with my clients.
So, the techniques are important, but they’re not the be-all-and-end-all. Something else is actually, and it’s something that often gets in the way when you’re trying to do those techniques to reduce your migraine symptoms or reduce the frequency of your migraine.
That something is – it’s a something that often I think is avoided, and it’s avoided because it’s a potentially awkward conversation, a potentially embarrassing conversation; but it’s a really important conversation to have.
I think just about every time that I’m working with one of my clients, somewhere along the way we have this conversation. And, more often than not it happens if, coming back at the start of our session together, they tell me why they haven’t been able to finish their self-treatment programme. It’s because something is getting in their way…
It’s not a time issue. It’s not a practical thing. Actually, what’s getting in their way is a belief. It’s a belief about migraine, and in particular, a belief about their own migraine…
Now, if you’ve had migraine for a long time, you will have absorbed – what’s the word? – embedded these beliefs without even really knowing about it. In fact, you probably call them “facts”. For example, one of my ‘facts’ was: I will get migraine when I travel.
No two ways about it – I will get migraine. Fact. It felt like a fact because, what did you know, I used to get migraine when I travelled! But actually that was a belief… And the good news about beliefs is, we can change them.
But the first thing we need is, first of all to open ourselves up to the possibility that we hold a belief around migraine that is harming us. Then, to identify what it is, and then to change it. OK, that’s like the brownie promise thing, isn’t it? [holding up three fingers], then to be able to change it.
Identifying it, and also being open to the possibility, can be a little difficult when we’re trying to do it by ourselves. Which is why it’s helpful to have a conversation with another person. Yet, if you don’t have another person to have a conversation with, that’s no reason why you can’t give this a go.
1. Take pen and a piece of paper and begin writing what your beliefs are about migraine. To begin with, it doesn’t matter whether it’s a general belief or if you think it’s a personal belief. You don’t need to identify what it is at this stage.
2. Simply begin writing. And don’t stop writing.
3. If you feel like you want to take a moment to just to sit and think about what it might be, resist that temptation and keep writing! Even if you have to write “blah, blah, blah” – I mean literally “blah, blah, blah” – and so some words come back into your head – keep on writing.
Because there’s something about the process of it, of that writing. And as you do that, more often that not – or more likely than not, actually I should say – is, you probably will feel a small shift somewhere inside you. It might only be small to begin with, and that’s absolutely OK.
I like to picture it as actually a door opening, and it’s a door opening for you on the possibility, on the idea of the possibility even, that you can change that belief you hold around migraine; that you can change what your migraine is like too.
That is the way into changing your migraine. It is absolutely impossible.
Because of that value of that conversation and of that process of identifying that belief, it’s a conversation I will always have with a client – if it’s needed. I will never avoid it simply because it might be a little bit awkward in that moment. Because what it brings is so much more invaluable…
As always, I’m really curious to know if you try that first of all, and how you get on. Remember, it’s not about right or wrong.
I’d really love to know whatever your experience is of trying that process of writing down beliefs you have about migraine. I’m just smiling because I’m doing miming of what it is to write.
So listen, give it a go and let me know how you get on in the comments below.